Here it is! Welcome Armory to the first installment of ‘Everyday Heroes’!
This segment is a reoccurring series on my blog this year. Each interview will be split into two (sometimes three) parts and will run generally over one to two weeks. This is a place where I get to share with you some amazing people who have amazing things to share with you! So this is the first one Armory! I introduce to you all; Emily Hoskin!
Emily is a dear friend of mine, I have known her for many years. We met in highschool and her story is one that has touched and inspired me in many ways. I caught up with Emmy at her house in Melbourne, and over some delicious bickies and a strong coffee we chatted away:
So Emily: The first thing that pops into my mind when I think of you is: “You’re just so calm!” And you always have this awesome saying “It will always be okay,” – So what is your secret to that attitude, and have you always been like that?
Well, I don’t know if I was like that when I was a little child, I think I might have been a little bit different, but I think from what my Mum tells me when I was a little girl I wasn’t loud or noisy. I remember, she’d say that whenever I’d be placed in a spot I’d stay there until someone told me to move and I would never run around like other children; I wasn’t really like that. So I suppose I have always had that attitude, I guess it’s just evolved as I’ve gotten older. I also think being in and out of hospital I’ve had to accept it, and accept what I was going through.
So what would your advice be to someone who is the complete opposite of you?
Well seeing people who don’t believe everything will be okay and who worry about all the little things in life, I have to admit; it’s kinda frustrates me to see people like that, especially if I know them personally because I just want them to see that not everything in life needs to be worried about. People need to realize that once they’ve gone through something, to think about what they’ve been through and realize “Well, okay, if I had to go through that again, what would I do differently next time?”
Do you think that you are the type of person who always thinks about the outcome before even taking the first step and that is why you are so calm?
Yes I think I do because when I was in year ten, they [the teachers] told me that I might have to do my VCE over three years instead of two, and I didn’t want to stay at school an extra year because I wouldn’t have graduated with my year level and friends. And I remember thinking about it when the teachers told me this, and I thought “I don’t really like the sound of that,” so I always pictured myself graduating with my year level, and I just thought no, “I would just love to graduate with my year level and friends.” So I think when you picture yourself going through something and you haven’t gone through it yet, that can help with the outcome.
What is the one major thing that you want to accomplish in your life?
I’ve always liked the fact that I can inspire people and that they can hopefully learn from me, and that I can learn from them and other people. I love meeting people who have gone through a hardship in their life that has made them grow as a person and that they may not have physical scars exactly, but mental scars from what they have been through and they are still here, they’re still battling through each day and taking each day as it comes. So I love meeting inspirational people. I also like the fact that my friends and family can be inspired by me. So I just want to inspire people and to meet other people who inspire me, and maybe I can learn from them as well, and they can learn from me; so it’s like a ticket both ways!
What a beautiful aspiration in life; to inspire and to be inspired! Okay so the next question is; what is the biggest struggle that you have had to overcome in life?
I think just having a disability, I was born with kyphoscoliosis. So scoliosis has to do with your back and spine, and ‘kypho’ is the type of curvature. I’m not sure of it all exactly, I haven’t read much about it, I don’t really like to. They are other types of scoliosis, but I think kyphoscoliosis is one of the worst ones that you can have. So I was born with this, but the doctor’s didn’t find out until I was two years old, so I was diagnosed with it then. I guess when you are growing up and when you are a child, you want to run around and have fun and act stupid and jump on trampolines; but I couldn’t do that. When I was two they couldn’t operate on me or do anything, so I just had to wear a body brace and so I’ve worn one since the age of two and then when I was six I had my first operation. I remember parts of my childhood where I wanted to do things, but I couldn’t, and my Mum would tell me “No you can’t do this because of your back,” and I found that really hard because I would see my friends and Lucy [my sister] do all these things and I knew that I couldn’t do them, so it upset me a bit and I found it a bit hard to accept at the time, and for quite a while. I think maybe early teens; I just had to accept it.
Do you remember a significant point where you remember thinking; I just have to accept this? Or do you think it was a gradual thing?
I think it was a gradual thing, but I think when I was twelve, in 2006, I had my last operation then. So I haven’t had anything done to my back done since, but after my operation and when I came home I was healing physically for more than a year and maybe even mentally as well, because it impacted me in both ways. I remember after 2006 when I came out of hospital I didn’t really want to talk about what I had gone through at all, and that was about the time when I had to talk about because I had to keep going back to hospital to have check-ups and I’d remember when I would be in the room with my Mum, the doctor or someone who was seeing me would always ask my Mum what I’ve been through, and my Mum would always be the one talking. I would never say anything because I just didn’t want to talk about it. I remember on some occasions I would just sit there and I’d just start crying because I was grieving back then. I just didn’t want to think about it, but that was the point when I had to.
Well it’s been about eight years since years since your last operation, so it’s safe to say that you’ve overcome this. How does that feel looking back it now, and all that you’ve been through?
I don’t always think about what I’ve been through, and I don”t think about it every day either. I only maybe think about it here or there, or if I’m talking about my experience in hospital, or maybe if I’m watching TV and it’s about someone going into hospital, or if someone mentions hospitals. But I find that when I talk about it now I don’t get emotional as I used to be and I am more open to talk about it now.
And how do you feel about how much that you have overcome?
When I look back at what I have been through and how young was back then, I sometimes think to myself, “Oh wow, I have been through all of that and that at that age,” I mean I don’t know anyone else who was born with scoliosis, so it wasn’t like I could ask people for advice, I had to rely on the doctor’s advice instead. So the fact that I was born with it and that I had to deal with it for most of my childhood and my early teens, and that I still have to deal with it; in a way I do feel proud of myself, but I just don’t like to admit it. I don’t like to put myself on a pedestal; I’m not that type of person.
- Emmy is an avid reader of fantasy and inspirational non fiction. She lives in Melbourne and is currently studying Disability. She likes to live life to the fullest and never lets the little things worry her.
- Emmy’s story continues on The Knight Life next Monday [26/JAN/15]. Click on the menu on the top right hand corner, scroll down and enter your email to subscribe The Knight Life today and you’ll receive each new post that The Knight Life makes via email!
- Emmy has chosen that if this part of the interview had a soundtrack, it would be Cannon Ball by Lea Michelle, which you can find HERE.
- Here is a photo of the little snacks Emmy and I shared at her house: